Procrastinating
Feb. 4th, 2006 06:32 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
lurkittyI was very much in the mood this morning to attack the piles of mail I have been neglecting. I have a great deal of shredding and filing to do. Instead, I had to go to a meeting. I am secretary for our Eastern Star chapter, and this was the monthly meeting. I enjoy these get-togethers, don't misunderstand me. I just was into the organization zone, not the social zone. So I went out and was social nonetheless.
Tonight I can go to a Groundhog's Day party or to my friend's house for dinner. I am still not feeling social. So here is a discourse on one thing that irks me: the use of the word "antisocial".
Most people who use the word "antisocial" actually mean "asocial". Having been a counselor, antisocial means having Antisocial Personality Disorder, or being a sociopath. These are not nice people. They tend to be very charismatic, that is true, but they either put you on a pedestal or they hate you intensely. They have a set of rules they live by that is outside the social norm. They are especially adept at lying and manipulating the emotions of other people. They are often adrenalin junkies, if not drug addicts as well. They have a great deal of deep seated anger about them. But the one thing that really distinguishes them is their total lack of guilt and remorse. I always knew when I met these types. The hair on the back of my neck would stand up. Their demeanor tends to give them away. I anticipated never being able to trust anything they said.
An asocial person, on the other hand, is one who avoids social contact or just doesn't get along very well socially. This is what people usually mean when they say antisocial.
I am feeling asocial tonight. I have had my interaction with groups for the day. I wouldn't mind sitting around with one or two folks, but a party is too much. So I will try to get back into the cleaning mood.
Tonight I can go to a Groundhog's Day party or to my friend's house for dinner. I am still not feeling social. So here is a discourse on one thing that irks me: the use of the word "antisocial".
Most people who use the word "antisocial" actually mean "asocial". Having been a counselor, antisocial means having Antisocial Personality Disorder, or being a sociopath. These are not nice people. They tend to be very charismatic, that is true, but they either put you on a pedestal or they hate you intensely. They have a set of rules they live by that is outside the social norm. They are especially adept at lying and manipulating the emotions of other people. They are often adrenalin junkies, if not drug addicts as well. They have a great deal of deep seated anger about them. But the one thing that really distinguishes them is their total lack of guilt and remorse. I always knew when I met these types. The hair on the back of my neck would stand up. Their demeanor tends to give them away. I anticipated never being able to trust anything they said.
An asocial person, on the other hand, is one who avoids social contact or just doesn't get along very well socially. This is what people usually mean when they say antisocial.
I am feeling asocial tonight. I have had my interaction with groups for the day. I wouldn't mind sitting around with one or two folks, but a party is too much. So I will try to get back into the cleaning mood.
